Should is how others want us to show up in the world — how we’re supposed to think, what we ought to say, what we should or shouldn’t do. It’s the vast array of expectations that others layer upon us. When we choose Should the journey is smooth, the risk is small.
Must is different—there aren’t options and we don’t have a choice.
I loved this article about unsent letters, a tool to let off steam and then let cooler head prevail. A wise idea.
But what really stood out for me was this:
Now we need only click a reply button to rattle off our displeasures. And in the heat of the moment, we find the line between an appropriate response and one that needs a cooling-off period blurring. We toss our reflexive anger out there, but we do it publicly, without the private buffer that once would have let us separate what needed to be said from what needed only to be felt. It’s especially true when we see similarly angry commentary coming from others. Our own fury begins to feel more socially appropriate.
Via // a cup of jo
I’m a terrible multi-tasker. Actually, that comes out wrong. I’m actually a great multi-tasker, do it all the time, which is terrible.
It’s a lot of busyness without the appropriate productivity.
We may feel productive when we’re constantly switching between things, constantly doing something, but in all honesty, we’re not.
We’re just distracted.